The Church, the Polls and Divorce

13 Jun

Last night I was reading lots of tweets from friends all over the nation watching Harapan in ABS-CBN channel 2 which tackles the issue on House Bill 1799 or the what so called the Divorce Bill. While tweeting i suddenly realize which side am i in am I pro or am I anti? I’ll tell you later.

What is Divorce? According to wikipedia “Divorce (or the dissolution of marriage) is the final termination of a marital union, canceling the legal duties and responsibilities of marriage and dissolving the bonds of matrimony between the parties. In most countries divorce requires the sanction of a court or other authority in a legal process. The legal process for divorce may also involve issues of spousal supportchild custodychild support,distribution of property and division of debt.

Last night Harapan guests are Reps. Luz Ilagan & Neri Colmenares, ex-Rep. Liza Maza, Atty. Lorna Kapunan from Pro side, then Bishop Teodoro Bacani, Reps. Elpidio Barzaga & Bernadette Herrera-Dy, actress Evangeline Pascual the Anti side.

The debate was very interesting and informative in fact i save some of the interesting points.

Among the 92% filing for annulment, 62% are women. Kulang ang kasalukuyang batas.
Bacani: Hindi kailangan ang #divorcebill. Karamihan ng kasong nakasalang ay malulunasan ng legal separation at annulment
Bacani: Ang kasal ay hindi ginawa ng tao kundi binigay sa tao
Maza: Hindi na masasabing totoong inviolable ang kasal. Andyan na ang legal separation at annulment.
Colmenares: Divorce has always been in PH. May civil code na tayo on divorce during Spanish time.
Colmenares says PH recognizes divorce especially in marriage cases between Filipinos & foreigners
Maza: Bakit sila mananatiling nakakulong (in abusive marriages)? Bakit hindi sila bigyan ng karapatang makalaya?

Interesting isn’t it? Napaka timely ng discussion coz as you may know last May 28, 2011 the Philippines is officially the only country that bans divorce. Malta voted in favor of divorce legislation in a referendum held last May 28, 2011. So, are we trying to differ? Or masyado na ba tayong pinag-iwanan ng panahon? Look at us, are we happy with this situation? Makatutulong ba ang divorce sa kalagayan ng kababaihan sa lipunan?

Andaming tanong sa isipan at ito’y matutugunan lamang kung tayo’y makikialam dahil karapatan nating makialam at may malaman.

Official figures support this. The 2003 report of the Philippine National Police shows that wife battering accounted for 53.6 percent of the total 8,011 cases of violence against women. About three of ten perpetrators were husbands of the victims. Husbands accounted for 28 per cent of the violence against women crimes. The Department of Social Welfare and Development reported that in 2003, of the 15,314 women in especially difficult circumstances that the agency serviced, 25.1 per cent or 5,353 were cases of physical abuse, maltreatment and battering.

My Side

The church as we know it promotes the sanctity of marriage but given the facts that the very foundation of Catholic in Rome allows divorce in their country, who are they to work against the will of the people? If the people wants it then so be it.

Ang pamilya bilang pondasyon ng lipunan ay may karapatan at may responsibilidad na alagaan at pagtibayin ang kanilang pagmamahalan subalit kung ang pagmahahalan ay wala ng tamis at away na lang palagi ang hinahantungan ano ba ang solusyon upang ito’y malunasan. Annulment, separation o ano pa man. Hindi ba’t ang kadalasang ngyayari ay ang bayolenteng kinahahantungan na kung saan marami ang kaso ng asawang inaabuso.

Kung magkataong magmahal ng iba ang isang may asawa subalit ayaw nyang suwayin ang batas ng simbahan at patuloy na nag aaway ang kanyang puso at isipan ano ba ang dapat na sa tingin nya ay makakabuti? Marapat ba syang makisama sa kanyang asawa samatalang ang isipan at puso nya ay malayo naman sa asawa nya. Hindi ba’t unfair naman sa asawa nya na nagsasama lang sila dahil sila ay kasal. Hindi nga kayo nag-aaway o kya nagbabangayan sa loob ng inyong tahanan ngunit kung ang mga kalooban nyo naman ay naghihirap dahil alam nyo sa isa’t isa na may ngyayaring hindi nyo na nagugustuhan. Marapat pa bang kayo’s magsama habang buhay?

Naroon na ko sa punto ng simbahan nung sinabi ni Bishop Bacani na nangangako ba kayo that “Til divorce do us part” natawa ako nung marinig ko ito pero may sense subalit yun nga kung balikan natin ang mga nakaraan at patuloy na ngyayari wala naman talagang permanente sa mundo. Agree ka ba dun?

Kulang ang batas, here’s an interesting point why? (a quote from  Women’s Legal Bureau, Inc., a legal resource NGO for women:

“The present laws relating to separation of couples and termination of marriage are inadequate to respond to the myriad causes of failed marriages. Particularly, the remedies of declaration of nullity and annulment do not cover the problems that occur during the existence of marriage. Legal separation, on the other hand, while covering problems during marriage, does not put an end to marriage.”

“Though both divorce and a declaration of nullity of a marriage allow the spouses to remarry, the two remedies differ in concept and basis. A declaration of nullity presupposes that the marriage is void from the beginning and the court declares its non-existence… Beyond [the] grounds specified [in the law], declaration of nullity is not possible. ”

“In annulment, the marriage of the parties is declared defective from the beginning, albeit it is considered valid until annulled. The defect can be used to nullify the marriage within a specified period but the same may be ignored and the marriage becomes perfectly valid after the lapse of that period, or the defect may be cured through some act. The defect relates to the time of the celebration of the marriage and has nothing to do with circumstances occurring after the marriage is celebrated. In annulment, the marriage is legally cancelled, and the man and woman are restored to their single status. ”

Sa aking opinyon ang layon naman ng Bill na ito ay para sa ikakabuti ng bawat pamilya at mamamayan ng ating lipunan. Kung kayo man ay hindi pabor sa bill na ito, ang inyong reaksyon at opinyon ay mahalaga din kaya’t pagusapan natin.

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2 Responses to “The Church, the Polls and Divorce”

  1. Olegs June 14, 2011 at 9:23 am #

    Parang nakikita ko na ang magiging reaksyon ng kura paroko namin sa Better Living.

    “Pag sa simbahang katoliko kayo magpapakasal, tanggap nila nag turo ng simbahan at hindi sila maaaring mag-divorce. Kung sa huwes kayo nagpakasal, ibig sabihin hindi kayo katoliko at hindi kayo karapat-dapat na matawag na katoliko (Kahit binyag katoliko) kasi taliwas kayo sa turo ng simbahang katolika.”

    Base yan sa argument ng kura paroko namin sa RH Bill. Re-phrased ko lang sa issue ng divorce. Hehehe! 😀

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