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The Church, the Polls and Divorce

13 Jun

Last night I was reading lots of tweets from friends all over the nation watching Harapan in ABS-CBN channel 2 which tackles the issue on House Bill 1799 or the what so called the Divorce Bill. While tweeting i suddenly realize which side am i in am I pro or am I anti? I’ll tell you later.

What is Divorce? According to wikipedia “Divorce (or the dissolution of marriage) is the final termination of a marital union, canceling the legal duties and responsibilities of marriage and dissolving the bonds of matrimony between the parties. In most countries divorce requires the sanction of a court or other authority in a legal process. The legal process for divorce may also involve issues of spousal supportchild custodychild support,distribution of property and division of debt.

Last night Harapan guests are Reps. Luz Ilagan & Neri Colmenares, ex-Rep. Liza Maza, Atty. Lorna Kapunan from Pro side, then Bishop Teodoro Bacani, Reps. Elpidio Barzaga & Bernadette Herrera-Dy, actress Evangeline Pascual the Anti side.

The debate was very interesting and informative in fact i save some of the interesting points.

Among the 92% filing for annulment, 62% are women. Kulang ang kasalukuyang batas.
Bacani: Hindi kailangan ang #divorcebill. Karamihan ng kasong nakasalang ay malulunasan ng legal separation at annulment
Bacani: Ang kasal ay hindi ginawa ng tao kundi binigay sa tao
Maza: Hindi na masasabing totoong inviolable ang kasal. Andyan na ang legal separation at annulment.
Colmenares: Divorce has always been in PH. May civil code na tayo on divorce during Spanish time.
Colmenares says PH recognizes divorce especially in marriage cases between Filipinos & foreigners
Maza: Bakit sila mananatiling nakakulong (in abusive marriages)? Bakit hindi sila bigyan ng karapatang makalaya?

Interesting isn’t it? Napaka timely ng discussion coz as you may know last May 28, 2011 the Philippines is officially the only country that bans divorce. Malta voted in favor of divorce legislation in a referendum held last May 28, 2011. So, are we trying to differ? Or masyado na ba tayong pinag-iwanan ng panahon? Look at us, are we happy with this situation? Makatutulong ba ang divorce sa kalagayan ng kababaihan sa lipunan?

Andaming tanong sa isipan at ito’y matutugunan lamang kung tayo’y makikialam dahil karapatan nating makialam at may malaman.

Official figures support this. The 2003 report of the Philippine National Police shows that wife battering accounted for 53.6 percent of the total 8,011 cases of violence against women. About three of ten perpetrators were husbands of the victims. Husbands accounted for 28 per cent of the violence against women crimes. The Department of Social Welfare and Development reported that in 2003, of the 15,314 women in especially difficult circumstances that the agency serviced, 25.1 per cent or 5,353 were cases of physical abuse, maltreatment and battering.

My Side

The church as we know it promotes the sanctity of marriage but given the facts that the very foundation of Catholic in Rome allows divorce in their country, who are they to work against the will of the people? If the people wants it then so be it.

Ang pamilya bilang pondasyon ng lipunan ay may karapatan at may responsibilidad na alagaan at pagtibayin ang kanilang pagmamahalan subalit kung ang pagmahahalan ay wala ng tamis at away na lang palagi ang hinahantungan ano ba ang solusyon upang ito’y malunasan. Annulment, separation o ano pa man. Hindi ba’t ang kadalasang ngyayari ay ang bayolenteng kinahahantungan na kung saan marami ang kaso ng asawang inaabuso. Continue reading

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